Raising Independent, Competent, Capable children

In this workshop, Alyson discusses the recent changes in our parenting approaches that have negatively impacted children’s development.  Parents want resilient children who are less needy and demanding.  They want to be sure they will be ready to launch.  However, parents also inadvertently sabotage their own goals.  Participants will learn how to go about training children for independence and competency as well as keeping them accountable for their responsibilities without nagging, fighting or stepping in to rescue them.  The importance of stress tolerance through mistake-making and how encouragement, rather than praise, will establish the healthy mindset children need for growth will be demonstrated.

9:00 am - Start

12:00 pm - End

• Learn Baumrind’s 4 parenting styles and explore cultural and historical differences
• Understand the Adlerian term pampering and its effects on children
• How to look for readiness and age-appropriate skills and responsibilities
• Introduce a 3-step process for taking time for training and how to pass responsibility on.
• Methods for holding a child accountable for their responsibilities
• Demonstrate the difference between praise and encouragement
• Show the similarities between Adlerian vertical and horizontal striving and Carol Dweck’s Mindset model
• Recognizing parental fears and need for perfection